Goals – Setting Vs Achieving

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Goals. We all hear about them, some people talk about them, some even set them, but how many of us achieve them?

What is a goal? Goals define our purpose. When we want to achieve something it becomes a goal. And, theoretically, we aim to accomplish it. When we achieve it we see that particular journey as a success.

Did you know that setting goals is an intellectual process? No-one is born with goals in mind. That probably sounds ridiculous, but what sounds more ridiculous is when people blame others for not being able to set, or reach, their goals. People who can set good goals have learned how to do so.

The first problem people have when setting goals, is that they think logically. Goals are not meant to be logical. If you want to set a good goal, you need to take the lid off, and dive into your imagination. Figure out what you want and go for it. Do not use reason to create a goal, or try and justify your goal. If you are a very reasonable and logical person, take some time out to just think about what you would really want if money and time were not a contributing factor. If you do that your imagination will start to run and you will come up with some magnificent goals. Other people should laugh at you when you have set your goal that you want to achieve. This is the size of the goal we are talking about.

When you use reason and logic to justify your goals, you are basing your decisions around your current circumstances. Your goal is something that will remove you from your current circumstances. Put all of that aside, there is a time to consider that, but not just yet.

Once you have decided what your goal is and have set it firmly in writing, you can work towards achieving your goal. This is when you think about your current circumstances and situation. You now need to position yourself to achieve your goal. What is positioning yourself? Well, this is where you decide what it will take to achieve your goal. You need to take your big goal, and break it down into smaller goals and then break down the smaller goals into even smaller goals and keep doing so until you have bite sized chunks. When you look at your main goal, it will look like it is something that you cannot achieve at all! That is why you need to break it down, writing down every smaller step, each piece building off the previous.

The first step you need to take, is to actually take a step! Act now. Don’t wait! Stop setting a goal to right your goals down, and just sit down and start now!

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Goals help us maximize our success. Napoleon Hill, one of the Grandfathers of personal development said, “Goals are anything we want to do, be, have, or achieve.” This is a very broad statement. But it covers goals perfectly! The great thing about goals is that there is not just one kind of goal. No two goals are alike. Sure, you and the person next to you may want to earn $50,000 a month, yes, I do mean ‘a month’, but your journeys on how to get there will be extremely different.

Our individual journey to set and achieve goals is almost as unique as a finger print! The moment you try mimic someone else’s journey, is the moment you move away from your own. You can absolutely take tips and advice and implement strategies given by someone else, but it is important that you are flexible and willing to slightly adjust what you are doing to suit your character and your strengths!

Jerry Bresser said, “There are no unrealistic goals, just unrealistic time frames.” Your goal is not the problem. Make sure you are giving yourself a realistic time frame. If you are incredibly ambitious, set a time frame to suit. Bill Bartmann set a time frame, when he was bankrupt, to make it into the Forbes list of richest men in America within 5 years. Did he make it? No! But he did make it in five and a half years! Find the time frame that suits you, put it on paper, and go for it.

Don Hutson says, “Writing your goals on paper triples the chance you have of success. Setting a time frame and writing it down next to the goal increases your chance of success by TEN times!” Less the one half of a percent of employees in the work force today write their goals down! What does this tell you? Well, it tells me that if you were to put your goals in writing, you would be amongst the elite! You would start succeeding!

Our behavior is a result of our beliefs, and therefore, when we write our goals down and start believing what we are capable of and what we can do, our behavior starts to take after our belief system. In short, if you write it down and believe it, you can make it happen!

If you have not written your goals then right now, go get a pen and paper and write them down. Typing won’t do, you have to write them in ink on paper and keep them somewhere you can access them easily and review them daily. Keep motivated! Keep Strong!

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Running The Race Worth Living

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Have you ever done something just because you would like to tell people about it? One of my decisions in life was that I would live the kind of life that when I have grand children they will be captivated by my life and will want to hear over and over again. But this means I have to live an exciting life. I love new challenges, I love being part of a story, I love creating the stories for others to be part of!

Everyone wants to be part of a story. Why is it that when a World Cup is won in football, soccer, rugby, or when the Olympic team returns home thousands of people come to greet them at the airport. You can watch video clips of these teams arriving home to cheering, singing, dancing, people so happy to be at the airport. They don’t care about the weather, the distance they have to travel, they just want to be part of the story! Why? The game is over, the trophy is won, but they still want to be involved.

What story are you creating? Is your story for you, and only you? There is a great book/movie called Scrooge. Remember it? All about the nasty old man at Christmas. Does your story encompass your family and friends? This is where most people live their life and it is a great place to be! There are a very few number of people in life that make the decision to become part of a great story. The decide to impact strangers in their story. They help, teach, train and inspire others to be able to live a better life. You need to make a decision to live this kind of life! It won’t just happen, it takes action.

John Stephen Akhwari. Recognize the name? He is an Olympic marathon runner who ran in 1968. If you Google ‘marathon winners 1968s’ you won’t find him. Why? Because he didn’t win, in fact, he lost, and badly. I put ‘Olympics 1968 marathon’ into Google. The first result- John Stephen Akhwari. Why is it that the world remembers this man, who lost so badly, more than they remember the winner? Well, it’s because of his story. He fell during the race. He injured himself, yet this Tanzanian kept running! The race had finished, the crowds had mostly disappeared. Only a few people remained and cheered as he finished. It was clear that he had no chance of winning, he limped across a finish line and a reporter asked why he had not given up. Looking confused he replied, “My country did not send me to Mexico City to start the race. They sent me to finish.”

This man’s commitment to finish the race has made him famous. It didn’t even cross his mind to give up. His story is phenomenal. Those that stayed to cheer as he came in are part of that story. They were impacted by his commitment.

I challenge you today to go and create your story. Go and live your dreams and don’t give up. It may look fruitless, but if you even live half of your dream rather than none of it- don’t you think your life would have a huge impact and be even more worth living?

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Following on from my last blog post, Your 1 Degree Difference, are these 8 Principles For Inspired Action from Ron Finklestein. Of course, I aim to dive a bit deeper and add my own twist, but Ron definitely gets full credit.

1. Intelligent Self Interest
When making decisions make sure that you are taking your own situation into account. You have the same amount of time in your day as everyone else. You have limited resources, and you have limited money. Understand what is within your best interest and choose to take action.

2. Learn to say ‘No’
Learning to say ‘No’ allows you to go from successful to significant. Most people really battle setting up boundaries for themselves. It is possible to let people down gently by saying ‘no’. Don’t burn bridges, and make sure you stick to your firm boundaries. This is one of the hardest principles to act on. People generally like to be liked, and fear that if they say ‘no’ people will stop liking them. That is why this principle can take you from successful to significant. Once you have it perfected, you will respected, trusted, and rapidly moving through life focusing on your goals. This isn’t to say don’t help others. But make sure you are not taking on any more responsibility beyond your capacity.

3. Ownership- Legal right of possession
Take ownership of your actions. You either did the task, or you did not do the task. Stop trying to find excuses. You may have a perfectly legitimate excuse, but then how much time do you waste talking about it and feeling sorry for yourself. There is nothing wrong with not completing a task, just take ownership, and make sure it gets done as soon as possible.

4. Measure Results
Find out what works for YOU. Don’t worry about everyone else. Find you strategies. If something is not working- then stop! Different people have different strengths. Make sure you build on yours. As you go you will build new strengths, then you can start building on those too.

5. Discipline
Learn to create successful habits. Don’t talk the million dollar game if your actions are giving you million dollar habits! Set up event goals and not results goals. An example of this could be: Result goal- recruit 1 person into your team a week. You have no control over this. But, as you do track your results, you know that on average it takes 20 phone calls to recruit 1 person into your team. An Event goal would therefore be making 20 phone calls a week.

6. People
Your success is completely 100% dependant on how well you coach, counsel, motivate, persuade and influence others to take inspired action. You need to understand what is important to others and why they would want to do business with YOU and not someone else. What sets you apart from everyone else?

7. Persistence
Persistence can be defined as a continuing effect after a cause has been removed. Even when things are tough keep going for it. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. How far are you willing to go to reach your dreams?

8. Action
None of the above principles are any good unless you take action. You need to decide for yourself to take inspired action. Make the most of every decision you need to make. Decide wisely, and if you chose to go for it, then REALLY go for it!

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I recently hopped on a flight and travelled for 15 hours, including a connection, to attend a conference in Indianapolis. I was there for two nights and listened to the most amazing speakers and bestselling authors and then did the return journey. Such is the nature of my business; I am constantly surrounded by the best of the best! Boyd Matheson kicked off the day’s session talking about Entrepreneurship. This is the first of a series of blog posts I will be doing based on the event.

Being Entrepreneurs we have big and lofty ideas. We’re dreamers. We see the bigger picture. We are in a rapidly evolving society where university/college degrees are out dated within 18 months, unless of course you are in computing, then the degree has a much shorter time span! Most in demand jobs did not even exist 6 years ago. Children at schools are being trained for jobs that will not even exist when the time comes for them to get a job.

It is IMPERATIVE that we all have the Entrepreneurial spirit! Entrepreneurs think differently. We have different goals and aspirations. We know that by applying ourselves and becoming a product of constant education and development we will be in the power seats in life! But why is it that we have so much opposition. Have you ever met that person who told you that your dreams are too far out of your league? Bill Bartmann calls these people ‘negative motivators’. We all have them, not just you. It’s how you respond to these people that defines your future. Notice I said ‘respond’ and not ‘react’.

Boyd Matheson gave a fantastic example. Have you ever watched the sun rise? Have you ever climbed a mountain and watched the sun rise? Do you remember the view? It is one of the most beautiful sites I have ever seen. The view is unreal!

Have you ever met the person that will never get up to see a sunrise? They won’t put the effort in to climb the mountain. And, of course, they criticize those that do. This is figurative, your mountain may be something different to my mountain, but I’m sure you get the idea.

This is difficult to overcome. It is so important that you do not let people discourage you! Once you have seen that view, you will never forget it. It sticks with you. This is what being an Entrepreneur is about. You get a glimpse at something bigger than what you are.

Did you ever notice that when you start climbing the mountain the view does not change that much. You get tired, it gets steep, but you stick with it. As you are elevating more and more you see more and more. Your perspective changes. Your perspective only changes as you elevate more and more. As you get higher and higher the beauty starts to reveal itself. It’s magnificent! Never EVER let someone stuck in a valley below you tell you otherwise!

‘What is above knows what is below. What is below does not know what is above’ Boyd Matheson.

Once you see your mountain, go for it. If you are stuck in a valley, it’s time to get out of it. We ALL need to choose to climb higher. It is a decision we make ourselves. Personally, I compare my life to the Everest of all lives. What is your life going to be?

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Position Yourself into Success

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Do you think these great leaders and professionals woke up one day and said, “Today, I’m going to be an expert at xyz”? Life does not work out like this! People do not change their dreams on a day by day basis! We all have dreams, and maybe they change slightly day to day, maybe you get new dreams, but in general they are all on the same wave length.

It takes some serious positioning for those of us with ambitious dreams to reach them. Here’s an example: To be a multi millionaire you could rob a bank, win the lottery, or start the process of positioning yourself. It may sound complicated, but positioning yourself, simply put, means dividing your goals into smaller goals, and then again into smaller goals, and then achieving one goal at a time. If you do this on a daily basis, and you work on achieving each goal, you will position yourself!

A great real life example, for many of you reading this post, is on Network Marketing. In reality, this is the best option the average person has to become financially free! In order to be successful in Network marketing you need to focus online, and offline, especially getting started in today’s society. Let’s focus online. You need to establish a web presence, let people know you are someone trustworthy and not someone trying to get a quick buck off them. In order to establish a web presence you need to be all over web 2.0 (all the social networking sites, have a blog, articles etc). It really is overwhelming! That’s why you break it down even further! Let’s go with social networking. The most common sites today is Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn, and so many more! But even this is a lot to handle so start with Facebook and maybe Twitter. If you start with one of those two today, and do the simple things daily (and I mean DAILY) then you will position yourself and get going on your journey. Soon Facebook and Twitter will be booming, and then you can focus on your blog, people will research you, so have something available when they Google you! You can get really specific when positioning yourself!

This example is specific to Network Marketing, but it DOES NOT change from industry to industry, if you want to be a doctor, fireman, pilot, whatever- make sure you position yourself!

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Your New Years Resolutions!

I’m going to be quite frank and to the point here. I don’t believe in the value of a New Years Resolution. I’m all for people making them, as long as the stick to them, but I’m not big on making them myself. New Years Resolutions are simply goals. Making them once a year is not effective enough. I live my life making ‘New Years Resolutions’ almost daily! I’m constantly setting and adjusting my goals, big or small. It’s amazing how many people I’ve spoken to who have mentioned that in the New Year they will start something new. I think to myself, why not start NOW.

I’m an entrepreneur and love it! In the New Year so many people are going to make the decision to finally start working towards their goals of financial freedom. They are going to be looking for businesses to join and get started. You could very well be one of them. Or you could be set up already and reap the rewards. Now, I don’t care if you join me in my business, or someone else in their business. There are so many fantastic business opportunities out there you are bound to find something you are passionate about! I know I did!! You have now got only a few days to get set up with your home business before the New Years Resolution rush hits. I’d much rather have my business available for people to join in that rush than be part of the rush. So get started!

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Sometimes it will just be nice to know where you are going in life. It could be quite relaxing to know that you are going to have smooth travelling for a while; it could be nice to prepare yourself if you are going to be heading down a bumpy road. But life is not like this. When you take a drive during the daylight you can see for miles and miles, where is the adventure? Sure it’s nice to take a road trip and look at everything around you, but life is not like driving in the daylight.

No, life is like driving at night, when its pitch black out and you cannot see 2 feet outside your side windows, and you can only see 150 feet in front of you. You may know where you want to end up, but you’re on a journey now there is nothing you can do to increase your vision, so just enjoy the ride!

One of the main things you will notice about travel is that you are, most of the time, moving forward. Every now and then you will head down a gravel road, or get stuck in a blizzard. The blizzard could get so bad that you may have to pull over until visibility gets a bit better. When this happens in life, make sure you pull over! Take some time out, and do not burn out! Every now and then when travelling you see a deer staring into your head lights standing in the middle of the road. As horrible as it is to say, the safest thing is to not swerve out the way, you need brace yourself and hit that deer. To many times people have swerved to avoid the deer and they and all the passengers do not make it. When this happens in life you need to make sure that you do what you can to make sure you keep your loved ones safe. Do whatever you can to protect them.
In life you will come across blizzards, and hazards, and gravel roads, just make sure you never put your vehicle into reverse and end up where you have just come from. Always look forward.

If you want to be a great achiever in life you need to focus extra hard on your success. You need great passengers in your car, and believe me, they are easy to find! I for one love going on entrepreneurial journeys with people and helping them reach their success, so if you can’t find anyone to travel with, just drop me an email! It is pivotal you surround yourself with likeminded success oriented people! It is important you start moving! Another great annotation I love is a sail ship cannot turn unless it is moving and has wind in its sails! So get moving, too many people decide one day when! When what? When you have time, money, help? Those are no longer valid excuses, the moment you say “one day when” you may as well forget about it, because that will probably never happen!

Take a stand! Start your journey today! Get the wind in your sails! Put your foot on the accelerator! Just DO something!

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Whats Holding You Back?

Well? What is it you want to be doing and why aren’t you doing it? It so easy to dream but never do anything in life to get there. In today’s world we want everything NOW! But it doesn’t work like that. If you want to live on a beach or retire young, you need to start positioning yourself today.

If you have the ‘tomorrow’ syndrome you are an underdog right off the bat. I’ll start tomorrow. I’ll study tomorrow. I’ll build my business tomorrow. That will get you nowhere in life. Start today!

I was having a coffee with a friend last week and he mentioned how most people, including himself, talk about doing more in life but never do. Do you fit into that category? He went on to compliment me on acting on my ambitions. I can see why most people don’t, it does take hard work and time, but once you are moving with it I guarantee you it is incredibly rewarding!

I decided I’m going to start my own business using the internet as a tool to let people know what it is I’m doing. It’s great because I have people contacting me from ALL over the world to find out about my business. I also have people contacting me asking for help, so I have also now moved into a coaching position teaching those just starting up and I love it!

If you don’t know where to start, or what to do, then just get hold of me. I’d love to help! But above all, just START!

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Multi-Tasking (Switch Tasking)

How effectively do you manage your time? People tend to pride themselves as fantastic multi-taskers. Multi-tasking is not putting on the coffee pot and then going back to the computer well your coffee brews, multi-tasking is being able to two important items at the same time, like talk on the phone while you type an email for example. But is this really multi-tasking? Dave Crenshaw calls this ’switch tasking’.

It is neurologically impossible to do two items of grave importance at the same time. Your mind is constantly switching back and forth between the two. Next time you are on the phone with someone who obviously preoccupied with something else look out for the signs that gave it away. Chances are, when you are trying to do two things at once, and one of them involves a person, that person CAN ALWAYS tell that you are not giving them adequate attention. It is incredibly dangerous and disrespectful to multi-task with people!

Is it ok to multi task (switch task) without people? Sure, if you want to waste your time. You will be so much more productive setting goals, creating a task list and controlling your own day than trying to do so many different things at once. Once you have created a task, for example checking your email, then do so in the allocated time slot. It’s so tempting to refresh your email every five minutes, or when you see the notification come in to go straight to your email and read it then and there, but that is letting technology control you! Allocate time, on every hour, or every three hours, depending on your job and what works for, when you can go and check your email.

Creating a focused task list will increase your productivity. Don’t try to do more than one thing at once, the only person losing out is you. Learn how to structure your day and you will be surprised at the benefits!

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It is so easy to get caught up in everyday life and watch your plans dissipate to nothing then suddenly get a burst of energy again and give it another go for a day before life takes over again. So many of us repeat this cycle over and over again. If you are trying to build your business this is the absolute worst way to go about it.

It is incredibly important to do the simple things daily. It is better to spend 30 minutes 7 days a week than 5 hours on a Saturday working on your business. If you can’t do 7 days a week, aim for every 2nd or 3rd day. But just keep it consistent!

Focus on the simple things. This is particularly important if you are battling for time. Do not spend what little time you have trying to figure out the ultimate strategy and then never get anything done. Rather go to Twitter every day and build on a daily basis. It does not take to much effort to get 300+ followers a day on Twitter. All it takes is a simple strategy and consistency.

Above all DO NOT GIVE UP. If you expect results in your business tomorrow from something you start today, you are in the wrong business. These simple strategies take time, they are long term strategies. But 6 months down the line, or 2 years done the line when you have over 50,000 followers on Twitter, your business will be booming from doing the simple things consistently and focusing on them.

And be consistent in your methods. It may look consistent to spend 5 days a week working on Facebook, YouTube, MySpace, Twitter, Blog, Articles, etc spending a day on each, but you need to pick one or two strategies and focus on those.

Good Luck!

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Don’t Get Stressed

It is easy to get stressed with the overwhelming amount of information at your fingertips when starting your business. But getting stressed will do you no good at all. There are several methods you could use to reduce the stress when you have the pounding headache and nothing seems to be moving anywhere.

The first one I would highly recommend is to go and take either an hour, or thirty minutes if you are short of time and re-evaluate your goals. Write everything down that you think you have to do and then weed out the items that will not have an immediate impact on your goals. Alternatively, if you can’t weed anything out, then create a daily plan allotting a certain amount of time to certain tasks. Use the days of the week effectively. For example:
Twitter is one of the most effective tools with immediate impact: Perform daily.
Articles have a great long term impact: Perform Monday & Wednesday.
Video marketing has great impact: Perform Tuesday & Thursday.

Break your list further and further down till you have a great schedule planned out. Setting daily goals like this will incredibly increase your productivity too.
Allow time slots for certain tasks. For example- check Twitter from 7-8am, and then write your article from 8-9am. During 8-9am DO NOT go back to Twitter, although it is incredibly tempting to constantly refresh your screen to see how many new followers you have.

Learn how to control your task list rather than letting it control you!

A home business is about becoming your own boss and having an enormous amount of fun while you do it. Surround yourself by others doing the same thing. If you don’t know anyone go ahead and add me on Facebook and send me an email and we can chat (link on the right hand side of this window).

We all get stressed when building a business. We all get stress in life. But focus on why you are doing what you are doing. What is your reason?

Keep your priorities right.

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Sum Of Your Decisions

Have you ever wondered what a mathematical formula of ‘you’ would look like? If you answered yes, maybe you need to get out more? Think about it? I am someone who decided to put a maths formula on each and every one of us. This formula follows:
You = decision ^ x (you equals your decisions to the power of x. X being the number of decisions you make)

This formula states that you are a result of the ALL your decisions. Sometimes circumstances leave you in a terrible place, or position. Sometimes where you are is due to someone else’s decisions. But that is not WHO you are. WHO you are stems from the decisions you make to get out of those circumstances.

Do you ever think back and think that if you had done something five years ago, or ten years ago your life will be completely different? Maybe it was doing night school, or taking a different job. Well, nothing can be changed about that. Right now you are in a position to determine your future. You are in a position to create a defining point in your life so that in 5 years time, or 10 years time you will not look back regretting making this decision. You will look back on today as a defining point in your life where you started to determine your own course by actively making life changing decisions.

Start today and make a decision everyday to improve your circumstances. Those decsions will accumulate and create a synergy that will be so strong you will propel ahead in life.
Go for it!

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Commitment To Goals

I thought I would write a bit about what it takes to commit to goals. We all have our goals and dreams in life, and it takes a whole lot of drive and determination to reach them. At least for those of us who set unbelievably ambitious dreams. I for one set dreams and goals that I feel far outweigh my capabilities. But I find that is the best way to grow and increase my skill set, getting as far as I can outside of my comfort zone.

We all have the best intentions when setting our goals, but after a long days work getting home and finally relaxing makes it tough to get going again. This is what sets the successful people apart from the average, the world class from the norm. The average person once finally relaxed at home fails to get going again. This behavior tends to become a pattern. It is absolutely fine to relax every now and then, as long as this does not become a pattern. Pattern is just another word for habit, good or bad.

Successful people may not even sit down and relax as it is easy to know what will happen if they do. They are committed; they are devoted to what they want to do. They make sure that the most important things come first. The most important things are without a doubt family and friends. As I stated in a previous blog, having healthy relationships behind you is the difference between putting jet fuel in your engine, or low grade gasoline when propelling success. Once those healthy relationships are there you have your support structure to help accomplish what you are aiming for.

When it comes to committing to your goals remember to remain to consistent. Above all consistency is the key. Doing the simple things daily makes a huge difference in comparison to doing the odd complex thing every now and then. I can share a personal example from my own life I am currently experiencing. I have set quite ambitious goals for myself. Fortunately there are tons of training calls and webinars that I can participate in. The only downside is that these training calls and webinars are in Eastern Time, and I am currently living in the UK. I spent most of this year in Canada, so had no problem; but now that I am in the UK these training calls are anywhere from 1am-3am! I have made the decision that I will get to at least two calls a week. Of course I will do more if I can, but I’m going to start small by committing to two calls. Once I’ve committed and accomplished I can look at moving on to the next step in my set of goals.

If you think you will battle then break your goals down and tackle them in more sizeable chunks. Even if bed seems more appealing than anything else, think of the end results. Where will you be if you keep on reaching your goals! Imagine how exciting life is going to be!

So set yourself apart! Make sure that you put yourself into the world class category and your life will never be the same!

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What is important to you? Do you want success, or do you want fulfillment. My bet, you want both. Are they one in the same though? Many people believe that when they are finally successful they will feel that awe inspiring sense of fulfillment. Once they get there though, they feel fulfilled for a short amount of time, and then they are back to where they started, but with a bit more money. Remember the saying, ‘Money can’t buy happiness’? This saying now has an extension, ‘but it sure helps’. Sure we feel great when we are not restricted by our finances, but this does not mean we will feel fulfilled.

Let’s now define each:

What is success? Success has been defined as ‘the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like’. Another definition is ‘a successful performance or achievement’.

Can success be measured? Success is measured by setting predetermined goals and accomplishing them. For example: ‘I will be successful when I have made my first million dollars’, or ‘I will be successful if I come in the top three in the race’, or even ‘our play will be successful if we get a standing ovation’. These are all measurable targets that can be compared year by year as we target our goals.

What is fulfillment? Fulfillment can be defined as ‘to satisfy (requirements, obligations, etc.)’

Can fulfillment be measured? The answer is ‘not really’. It is an emotion. Generally, it is extremely difficult to measure emotions as a level of success. When you are asking yourself, “do I feel fulfilled?” There is usually a simple yes or no answer. This can change quite drastically with a change of situation.

A lot of people think that success will change their world. They will finally be able to do whatever they want and fulfillment is just a given. “Of course I will be fulfilled when I’m successful”. But this is definitely not the case. Steve Siebold mentions that when he questioned the top 500 fortune 500 executives only 12 of them said they were fulfilled! Only 12!

In order to feel fulfilled we need to learn how to change our mindset in our current circumstances. We need to look for fulfillment in things of value. Money will come and go, but it is the value of relationships that is a more healthy reflection of how fulfilled we are. The relationships we have with friends and family, and especially husband and wife need to be nurtured and invested in. If you and your spouse have a healthy relationship that will have a positive impact on your children and as a family you will be fulfilled. It does not matter how successful you are. But! And I have a big but here, now that you are fulfilled don’t stop. Keep investing in those relationships.

Success should never be forgotten, we all want to be successful. But becoming fulfilled in your current circumstances will definitely give a foundation for whatever lies ahead. More often than not it is the support of family and loved ones that propels success. Those relationships are the difference between putting jet fuel in your engine, or low grade gasoline!

Once you have fulfillment and success life will have no restrictions on you!

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